You Don't Always End Up With The One

Photo: Courtesy of     John David      Dela Peri

Photo: Courtesy of John David Dela Peri

No matter how much time has passed, there will always be that one person who will cross your mind once in awhile. The one person who will always have a special place in your heart. The one you believed to only exist in fairy tales. The one you were willing to spend the rest of your life with.

The One That Got Away.

Don’t lie, I bet you’re thinking of that person right now as you’re reading this. It’s either they had to move to other side of the world for a job or you had to go in order to find yourself. It was a relationship that had to end; a chapter that had to close.

You told yourself that it was nobody’s fault and circumstances just got in the way of you two. You made yourself want to believe that the timing just wasn’t right and eventually you’d find your way back to each other. But let me ask you this, did it ever cross your mind that the one that got away was never supposed to stay?

Poets Sarah Kay and Phil Kaye couldn’t have said it any better, “Love arrives exactly when love is supposed to and love leaves exactly when love must”. Maybe who you thought was “the one”, wasn’t the one for you all along.

Most people think that they’ll never get the happy ending they deserve. You probably think the same. I mean, how could you not? You psych yourself into believing that you’re doomed because you blew your chance of a happily ever after. And you know that you’ll never find another love like that; you’ll never love the same again. But, you’re right because you’re in for something much greater.

There’s no happy ending because your story is nowhere near finished.

The universe isn’t done writing just yet and there’s more to you than you think. Just imagine this as another hurdle you have to jump over; the dragon you have to slay or the witch you have to defeat. And you’ll find yourself one step closer to that happily ever after.

But just because you end up in someone else’s arms, it doesn’t mean that what you had wasn’t real or should be forgotten. Cherish what you had in the past and be grateful. As the cliché goes, “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened”. Let these memories continuously remind you that it’s possible to find love again.

At some point, we’ve all thought of what life with “the one” would be like. I know I have. I imagined that he’d be someone I’d just lock eyes with and instantly feel at home. But life isn’t a movie.

Who knows, maybe you’ve already met them?

Maybe “the one” is the barista from your favorite coffee shop who knows your coffee order by heart. Or someone from your kindergarten that you happen to bump into 20 years later. Maybe it’s your best friend that you’ve practically known your whole life. It doesn’t matter who they are or where they come from. When the universe finally decides to finish your story, you’ll realize why it never worked out with anyone else.

Words by Abegaile Legaspi

IG: @abeelegaspi


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