Photo: Courtesy of  Aljon Rae Grospe

Photo: Courtesy of Aljon Rae Grospe

Whenever we get rejected or dumped, maybe even both, there’s always that one person who’ll tell you to “Cry a river, build a bridge and get over it.” I mean, can you blame them? They’re just looking out for you. They just want you to take off his baggy sweater that you’ve been sleeping in for the past three nights. They just want you to stop binge-watching Rom-Coms with a tub of ice cream on your lap. But most importantly, they just want to see your eyes shine again and not well up with tears threatening to fall.

But come on people! What’s the rush? Who ever said that moving on is like a ticking bomb? Since when did getting over someone needed a deadline? If I invested two years into a relationship, why am I obligated to overcome everything with half of the time, preferably less?

There’s a saying that goes “Pain demands to be felt.” Well, I say, not only does it need to be felt, it needs to be embraced. There is nothing wrong with letting yourself feel the pain and taking the time to heal all wounds. Even small wounds and scratches don’t just heal in a day. Because let’s be real, without the lows, you’ll fail to appreciate the highs. Without sorrow, you’ll never know joy.

Just like everything in life, there needs to be a balance. Welcome the pain, but don’t let it drown you. Let pain be the buoy keeping you afloat and not an anchor further sinking you to the ground. Despite the cliché, there is beauty in pain. Its beauty sheds light on how pain impacts us.

So, what do we really gain by going through pain?

  • Strength

Through our past heartbreaks and losses, we come off stronger than ever before, ready to face another day of challenges that might come our way. Protected by the armor of yesterday’s aches, we stand proud and tall today. Just like what Kelly Clarkson said, “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger”. We will no longer cower in fear at the sight of pain, but tackle it head on.

  • Truth

We’re no longer as ignorant as we were because we know better now. We are no longer blinded by the illusion created in the shadows, but finally able to step into the light. Gone are the filters shielding us from the fact that life ain’t all about rainbows and unicorns. The truth is, life will have its ups and downs, highs and lows but that never stops us from living.

  • Hope

Because of what we’ve been through, we become even more hopeful. We pray for a better day than today and wait for what tomorrow would bring. We fill our hearts with hope that the right person or the right job will come our way because after all, once you hit rock bottom, there’s no other way but up.

So, the next time someone tells you to “Cry a river, build a bridge and get over it”, look into their eyes, give them a smile and say “I’m taking my time.”

Words by Abegaile Legaspi

IG: @abeelegaspi

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