The Good Ones

  Photo courtesy of  Pauline De Leon

Photo courtesy of Pauline De Leon

We all have days where we feel down in the dumps; days where we feel incapable or unworthy. And sometimes all we wanna do is just curl up in bed and shut ourselves out from the rest of the world.

Trust me, I get it. I have those days too, more than I'd like to admit, if I'm being honest. But how does one get through a bad day? By being with good people.

So, you're probably wondering, who are these “good people”? The ones with the least amount of sins? The ones who never drink, smoke or curse? Of course, these people are by no means perfect. They've had their share of faults throughout the years.

But they're the ones who go above and beyond to support you always. They're the ones to call when you need a shoulder to cry on or a drinking buddy on a chill Friday night.

Well, let's be clear about one thing: these people in your life – whether it'd be your family, best friends or even a romantic partner – don't just condone. Just because they love and support you unconditionally, doesn't mean that they should agree with everything you do. Genuine good ones would call you out on your bull and slap you back to reality.

We all have to be wise about who we choose to let in our lives. Think of relationships as business investments – you always need to think about your return on investment (ROI)? Your ROI does not only focus on the benefits and gains, but also the losses.

So, evaluate your relationships, and ask yourself: “Am I giving more than what I'm receiving? What am I gaining? What have I lost?”

Weigh it out and see.

Yes, I truly believe that relationships should not be conditional. One does not give to another only to expect something in return all the time. But the thing is, there are leeches around us –whether they know it or not.

These people who aren’t good for your life don't know anything, except to take. They bombard you with unnecessary stress and literally suck the life out of you. And with instances like these, you have to take a minute, pause and evaluate.

We already have our own problems to deal with. We don’t need more people that would only call us in the middle of the night when they need us, but fall off the face of the earth when you need them.

So, the next time you’re having a not-so-good day, make sure that the ones you call will answer. But most importantly, make sure that they will bring you up and not kick you when you’re down.

Let them give you a piece of their mind. Let them be frank and honest. And as for you, learn to listen. Good people are hard to come by and all they want is the best for you, even if what they’re telling you isn’t always what you want to hear.

To end, let me share one of the smartest pieces of advice I’ve received: Surround yourself with people that bring you light and spare yourself of those who don’t.

 

Words by Abee Legaspi

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